Change

Seeking & desperate to find the good in all we do..

But it seems we aren’t stopping to ask if we are good inside, why is that?

We hardly every hit pause to wrap our minds around what’s beneath the surface of our own lives.. at least this has been true for me

It’s painful sometimes to slow down & accept that we are the only ones in control of our own happiness

I had to learn this the hard way..

In a lot of pain I learned that it is no one’s responsibility to make me feel whole inside

& I think when you are bonded with one person for so long if you aren’t careful you can put so much or all of your happiness in their hands..

Maybe without realizing it.. maybe without understanding what could come of this

A family member, a friend or an intimate relationship.. no matter the role they play.. the question quickly becomes -

Are you putting them on the throne of your life in some capacity?

Being able to answer this question honestly & breakthrough what it means creates freedom..

It will free you from seeking joy in the wrong places

It will create a steadiness in you that can sustain anything

To truly become happy within will bring peace to every relationship

I heard this piece of advice years ago that fundamentally changed my life & it’s this..

“Someone can only add to your joy, not be your joy”

It shifted the way I show up in my relationships.. more than that it shifted the way I show up for myself

I began to take action on this year ago & I am so thankful as I sit in reflection today that I did

It looked like doing things differently & unlearning old behaviors that were no longer serving me

That simple yet profound truth was a catalyst for my life

It was, still is & probably will forever be very uncomfortable

Time & time again.. without fail it is a leap of faith

But in life we’ve proven to ourselves that the reward is always greater than the suffering

It results in growing the relationships you value most..

It may also mean the ending of some too & it’s important to prepare for this

Both are essential & most of all.. worth it

It’s worth making space for the person I want to be

For the abundant future awaiting me

Not everyone or everything is meant to go with you through every season

& It is so key to know this.. to know when it’s time to let go & embrace the unknown..

Let this excite you, turn your face to the fear that’s trying to intimidate you

Expand your mind

Challenge yourself

Get out of your head

A huge part of this journey has been accepting some hard truths

 One of the truths I’ve had to accept is this..

You will fail people in your life & be failed by people

It’s unavoidable & it’s essential to accept this early on

Often times it’s the ones you love so deeply that you fail & are failed by

Making leaps & bounds out of your comfort zone will lead you to discover more about who you are & create space to heal years of hurt

On the journey to finding the best parts of you that are patiently waiting to bloom, it’s important to remember it comes with deep acceptance..

Acceptance that this may mean the death of who everyone once knew you as..

Don’t be afraid to dive head first into the unknown

You will learn to trust yourself

& The good will come flowing in.. so don’t try to stop it :)

Waiting for you will be everything that’s meant to be

All of this change will bless you abundantly